Argument: No matter how careful we become or try, we will have arguments in many places of life. Whether it is our relationship with our partner, with family, friends, co-workers, or sometimes even strangers, we can have an argument with anyone. With the right mindset sometimes argument can be helpful because it shows the strengths and weaknesses or helps people to know what is wrong and right.
Every human being is unique and has a different kind of view and is in a different state of mind. So, it is normal for people to have a different opinion and end up having an argument. However, it's not always the same case. Sometimes people make mistakes in their life but instead of committing to the mistake they argue about it and make things worse. People should always try to settle arguments instead of creating one.
Do’s and Don’ts during an argument
If you made a mistake commit it and apologize
Instead of apologizing for the mistake they made, people continue arguing. Arguing makes it worse. Therefore do not pretend it did not happen and try not to repeat the same mistake. What’s done is done already but you can make things better or at least less bad so do apologize and try to solve the problems that started the argument.
Do not makeup things and lie
To make up for the mistakes they made, people lie. They think that they can get away with a lie and also win the argument but you should remember that what goes around comes around. Eventually, someday the truth will come out which would create bigger issues so do not makeup things just to get away or win the argument.
Don’t continue to punish the other guy
When someone has made a mistake and if they have apologized, take some time and let go. If they have done or said something that you can never forgive, it is better to stay away from that person and letting go. Some do the silent treatment not because they don’t know what to do but they think it’s a way of punishing as well. Some go further by throwing passive-aggressive behaviours to rub salt on the wound. If you can, try to sort it out, if you can’t end up on good terms.
Now we know that arguments are inevitable, we should know what to do and how to do it, so that the same issues do not repeat.
How to settle the issue?
Figure out the moral of the story of the argument
The fixation of the problem starts with understanding what caused the argument. Turn the clock backward and find out the cause of the problem. Also, know what the other person thinks. After the argument, you will know about the likes and dislikes of that person, what kind of perception he or she has. It is a good time to know that person and understand what to do and what no to in the days to come.
Adopt the right mindset
Many people think of ending the relationship or stay on bad terms after an argument which only deteriorates the situation. Therefore remain calm and think about it instead. Do value what the other person is saying and try to understand them. If the argument was because of a misunderstanding, try to gather proof to make him or her believes you.
After the argument people tend to cut off communications or try to minimize it. It is time when you should communicate the most to cut off misunderstandings and solve the problems. Listen to one another and in case if you have done anything wrong, take your responsibility.
If you two can’t settle it, find a mediator
There might be times when you feel like not talking or even seeing the other person. At such times seek help from a mutual friend or someone who knows you two well. Even in normal situations, having a mediator will help to look at the problem from a different perspective to help solve it.
Look around for help; internet, friends, or experts
Sometimes there might be easy solutions to the problems that you are having but you might be unaware of them. According to your choice and preference, you can anonymously or openly share your problem or lookup for it so that you can solve it.
Sometimes letting go is the best option
Not always the argument needs to lead to getting back together. Sometimes, the issues that led to the argument might not be forgivable. At such times trying to adjust and fix might bring other problems in the future. Therefore, if parting ways is the best option, do consider it.
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